It's that time of year again. Many people are headed back to school after a nice refreshing summer break. As a kid, I always viewed August as a fresh start. I pushed the reset button on the year, and I used the start of the school year to begin again. As an adult, I still find myself hitting the reset button during this month. In the spirit of new beginnings, I am sharing a few tips on making the most of the second goal setting season.
Assess the Situation. If you set goals earlier in the year, take a moment to evaluate what you have accomplished. Ask yourself what went well. What have you accomplished (no matter how small) that has pushed you closer to your goal? For example, if you set a goal to network monthly during the new year, what steps have you made toward this goal? Have you made a list of professional groups in your area? Have you gone to a couple of meetings? Now ask yourself what was easy about these wins. Get specific about how you accomplished these elements of the goal.
When you have a clear understanding of what went well, assess what you have left to accomplish. Did you start off strong and then loose steam? This could be because you set unrealistic goals or you could have needed more information, support or resources to continue. Not reaching goals is rarely as simple as "I gave up". Dig deep and determine what barriers blocked your path to success.
Create a new plan. Develop a new strategy based on the information you gathered in the last step. Be sure to incorporate elements that created success and trouble shoot challenges that got you off track. .
Take Care of Yourself. As a counselor, I always think that self-care is a worthwhile goal. If you have been neglecting yourself this year, hit the reset button and start prioritizing your health. Often, when we are focused on reaching a goal, we neglect our health. We stay up too late. We eat convenience food. We don't visit the doctor or the dentist. If this is you, take ou your calendar and schedule in some much needed self-care. This will help you refill your gas tank, and you will make it to the end of the year with much more grace and ease. Struggling to find out how you will fit this in? Check out my self-care planner for actionable tips. I
Be gentle with yourself. I often find that successful people are their own worst critics. They hold themselves to impossibly high standards, and they feel disappointed/ stressed when they can’t meet their own expectations. You are doing much better than you give yourself credit for. I am sure of it. Every step you take toward your goals is a win. Remember, you aren't "starting over", you are simply picking up where you left off. Tony Robbins said that "most people overestimate what they can do in a year-- and underestimate what they can do in a decade." Don't beat yourself up for setting loft goals. You will get there, but it may take a little longer than you planned.
Are you hitting the resent button this month? What do you do to keeps you going?
Hey! I'm Samantha, a professional counselor living and working in Asheville, North Carolina. I believe that accepting yourself right where you are is the key to having the life you have always wanted. I designed this site to help you stop fighting with yourself and start treating yourself like a friend. Want to connect? Come say hello on Instagram or Pinterest, and subscribe to the email list so you never miss a post.