Episode 11: The Power of the Right Question


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Hey Everyone! Welcome back to another episode of the Creative Psych Podcast.  Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to rate and review. Your feedback means so much to me.

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Thanks so much for your kind words Beth.

Let’s dive into this week’s episode. It was inspired by a quote.

“The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your questions” .  

John Demartini

We’ve already learned that shifting our thoughts has a powerful impact on how we feel and what we do.   

The model starts with a trigger>> that generates thoughts>> that generates emotions>> that generates behaviors.    

You are probably bored of hearing me say that --- most of my clients are bored by now. That is kind of the point. You want to know these concepts deep down in your bones so that when it is time to use them it’s second nature.

Questions are just another type of thought.  Instead of saying I’m so lonely you ask yourself “Why am I so lonely?”. Instead of thinking “I’ll never be successful” you ask  “Why am I such a failure?”

These questions are going to generate problem focused answers. “Why am I such a failure” will generate answers like “I don’t know enough to be successful, I’m not a numbers person, I don’t follow through with tasks. I get distracted easily”.  You end up feeling overwhelmed, anxious and stuck. This leads to paralysis. If you are a failure ---- how could you get yourself out of the situation that you are in anyway.

Instead, try asking yourself questions that are focused on the solution or your desired outcome.

Instead of “Why is no one following me?” (on Instagram not is a creepy way) ask “How could I engage with people in my community in a way that is fun for me?” or “How could I provide value to the people following me?”

Instead of “Why don’t I have any clients?” ask yourself “Where are my clients spending time before they connect with me? What could I do to help educate potential client’s on my products and services?” “Who has a ton of client’s in my space? What are they doing to generate leads and convert people into customers?”

Instead of “Why am I so disorganized?” ask “Are there any areas of my life where I am organized?” “How could I translate that into this other area where it is more difficult?” “What systems could I create that would be easy for me to stick to?”  “How could I make this easier?” “Who could help me?”

When we shift our focus from looking at the problem to looking at the solution, we have more positive emotions and we are more likely to take positive action based on that positive energy generated from those emotions.

Better questions generate better results.  Ok, I’ll talk to you next week!

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Hey! I'm Samantha Osborne, a board certified counselor and host of the Creative Psych Podcast. I launched this show to help people just like you move from stuck to free. Want to connect? Come say hello on Instagram or email me at samantha@samanthamichelleosborne.com. It makes my day to hear from listeners!